WhitneyMy Girlfriend Doesn't Like My Piercings
February 22nd 2009 18:32
So, this can go either one of two ways. Either way, you must remember that a relationship is a give and take, so ask yourself is a piercing or two going to be a battle that you want to fight, a battle that could turn into a war, or just a measly argument that doesn't have to be much of anything.
So, there are at least two different scenarios for this case. 1) It's a new relationship and you've had the piercings for a while and the new girlfriend new that you had them. 2) It's an older relationship and you've gotten a piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like. ... Okay, or 3) It's a new relationship, and your girlfriend has just found out about a piercing, and isn't sure about it.
Here are my suggestions for the scenarios. Remember that these are just my opinions, and you will have to ultimately decide what will be best for your relationship.
Scenario one: It's a new relationship and you've had the piercings for a while and the new girlfriend new that you had them.
This scenario is a little iffy, as if the female knew that you already had the piercing(s), and she still agreed to date you, it can be hard to take out your piercings when you thought she already accepted you for who you are and what you look like. Personally, in this case, I would say that the relationship just may not work because the female is trying to change you after she already knew that she didn't like the piercings and that you had them. That could be a sign.
Scenario two: It's an older relationship and you've gotten a piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like.
If you've been in the relationship, and you get a new piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like, that's a little easier to aid. Basically, I'd say depending on how long you've been in the relationship, you should have asked her opinion before you got the piercing. But, since you already got the piercing, she'll either have to get over it, or you'll have to take it out. Personally, in my opinion, I'd say tell her to let you heal the piercing, and when you're hanging out together, you'll take it out because you do like her and her opinion does matter. That way, she doesn't have to see the piercing and you can still keep it. But, that just may not work for every female, so you'll have to play that one by ear.
Scenario three: It's a new relationship, and your girlfriend has just found out about a piercing, and isn't sure about it.
If you have a hidden piercing, that a casual dating scenes wouldn't notice, but that a relationship would (IE typically genital piercings), then that could be a problem for some females as well. Basically, I would just suggest that you explain that you can take it out when in need, but that for the most part, you'd like to keep the piercing. That way you can keep it for yourself or potential future use, but she doesn't have to see or feel it. Plus, maybe she'll come around to trying it out once you have been in a relationship for a little longer.
So, there are at least two different scenarios for this case. 1) It's a new relationship and you've had the piercings for a while and the new girlfriend new that you had them. 2) It's an older relationship and you've gotten a piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like. ... Okay, or 3) It's a new relationship, and your girlfriend has just found out about a piercing, and isn't sure about it.
Here are my suggestions for the scenarios. Remember that these are just my opinions, and you will have to ultimately decide what will be best for your relationship.
Scenario one: It's a new relationship and you've had the piercings for a while and the new girlfriend new that you had them.
This scenario is a little iffy, as if the female knew that you already had the piercing(s), and she still agreed to date you, it can be hard to take out your piercings when you thought she already accepted you for who you are and what you look like. Personally, in this case, I would say that the relationship just may not work because the female is trying to change you after she already knew that she didn't like the piercings and that you had them. That could be a sign.
Scenario two: It's an older relationship and you've gotten a piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like.
If you've been in the relationship, and you get a new piercing that your girlfriend doesn't like, that's a little easier to aid. Basically, I'd say depending on how long you've been in the relationship, you should have asked her opinion before you got the piercing. But, since you already got the piercing, she'll either have to get over it, or you'll have to take it out. Personally, in my opinion, I'd say tell her to let you heal the piercing, and when you're hanging out together, you'll take it out because you do like her and her opinion does matter. That way, she doesn't have to see the piercing and you can still keep it. But, that just may not work for every female, so you'll have to play that one by ear.
Scenario three: It's a new relationship, and your girlfriend has just found out about a piercing, and isn't sure about it.
If you have a hidden piercing, that a casual dating scenes wouldn't notice, but that a relationship would (IE typically genital piercings), then that could be a problem for some females as well. Basically, I would just suggest that you explain that you can take it out when in need, but that for the most part, you'd like to keep the piercing. That way you can keep it for yourself or potential future use, but she doesn't have to see or feel it. Plus, maybe she'll come around to trying it out once you have been in a relationship for a little longer.
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